15 December 2017

Finding Love!

The End Of Love As I Knew It… True Love

With a lovesick heart I gazed across the classroom at who I believed was the perfect vision of loveliness. She was radiant, beautiful and instantly appealing. She was this schoolboy’s dream. I felt that if I got just one smile from her I could die happy.

Fast forward twenty years and I happened to spot her in a pub, chatting to a man wearing a hopeful look on his face. My heart skipped a beat, but this time my vision was clearer and I knew that she wasn’t made for me. I knew this because there was a time when I did actually gain her affection at school. She had, in true teenage fashion, dispatched one of her messengers to indicate her interest. Heck! I was shocked and stunned.

It lasted an inglorious seven days – more like a vague association than a relationship. It turned out that I should have given a little more thought to what happens next, after the couple get together and walk off into the sunset.

I was awkward with her from the off, out of my depth and out of my league. I knew it, my school friends knew it, and within five minutes – no, that’s generous – five seconds of our first getting together, she knew it too.

We sat at her desk in the classroom surrounded by her entourage, all of them anticipating something exceptional from this latest beau who had somehow caught their heroine’s attention. (No pressure.) Confronted with bemused expressions, it was clear I was missing the mark. From now on, it was going to be damage limitation.

It was the end of love as I knew it… I wonder is there anyone who has never suffered lovesickness? Some of us wallow, some pick ourselves up sooner, and some indulge in chocolate.

We recognise that we are made for love – to give it and receive it. We can’t buy it, but it seems to come back in spades the more we selflessly give it away.

I’ve heard on more than one occasion that the Bible is God’s love letter to the human race. Whilst something of a cliché, there is so much truth in this statement. When you look at the big picture presented in the Bible, from the Old and through the New Testament, you see God’s repeated acts of love throughout history, culminating in the coming of his son, Jesus – to show us who He is, what He is like, and how much He loves us.

Yet a lot of people ignore him still; they do not feel worthy of His love, He is ‘out of their league’ if you will.

The good news is that God wants us anyway.

It is as if, through all that Jesus said and did, He is the boy in the classroom doing everything He can to gain our attention – only He has actually thought of what happens next, He can exceed expectations, He never misses the mark, He repairs our damage, and His love lasts forever.

(Suggested Next Steps: Have a read of any of the four gospels – Matthew, Mark, Luke and John and ask God to show his love for you through them.)

Will Salmon